Real Talk

Personal essays on dating, heartbreak, friendship and figuring it all out.

Early 20s Me Would Be Horrified That I'm on Bumble — Ifejola, July 20, 2026
If the me in my early 20s could see me in 2026 swiping left and right on dating apps looking for a potential partner, she would laugh so hard she'd probably fall off her chair. Looking back, it's no wonder I was so good at Subway Surfers. Turns out, I was unknowingly training for the swiping Olympics.
The Reality of Online Dating in Lagos Nigeria — Olusayo P, May 24, 2026
Fresh out of the fool's paradise stage of heartbreak, Olusayo Prada swipes into Lagos Tinder. Where G-Boys don't make the cut and a bearded stranger from Jos sounds suspiciously American.
About 30 — Baba Voss, February 28, 2026
Baba Voss turns 30 in a couple of days and he's not sure how to feel. But between the blessed 20s, the heavier bills and getting his bread up, gratitude is winning.
First Dates, How I Like It — Ifejola, February 11, 2026
Who pays? Who plans? Transport fare debates? Ifejola says all that gragra is immature. Here's exactly how she likes her first dates served.
Maintaining Friendships After Marriage — The LSV Team, April 20, 2025
Your best friend got married and the rhythm of your friendship changed? It isn't always black and white. And sometimes it can be all in your head.
God, Next Year — Ifejola, March 1, 2025
One grandma's "when are you getting married?" and one very earnest "Next year Ma, by God's grace". Ifejola is leaving the "God, when?" bandwagon behind.