Ask Bade: His Thinking Is Archaic

By Badejoko · May 7, 2026

Hello Bade,

I am in a relationship with a man i really love, he has a good job, lives in a nice apartment and does his best to make him happy and buy me the things I like. Another great thing about him is that I completely trust him, I know he isn't cheating on me and doesn't plan to but you see the problem I have is that his thinking is archaic. I don't know how to explain it, his opinion on important issues make me want to slap him and guess what, he shares it on Instablog and they usually drag him. I had to tell him to put his account on private because my picture is on his page. I really don't want to break up with him but i also don't know how to cope.

Please what can i do?

Bade: The thinking of a man forms him so let him know that his view on things are not progressive and you would appreciate an effort in him trying to change his perspective. You can either end the relationship if you believe he cannot change or buy him books, help him subscribe to podcasts or make him attend seminars that can help him think better.

Your concern is valid.